Well, I am new here but would like to try to help. I have found moves to be incredibly destabilizing for me and they really mess me up especially in the first two weeks (and I've done a few of them). I think having a new T lined up is a great idea and you may be able to circumvent any problems or if you're like me at all not decompenstate (as I always do upon a move). Perhaps this is why your therapist used language like "at a bare minimum. Hang in there and congrats on grad school. You're about to embark on an exciting journey and I wish I had a plan like you. And having such a plan tells me that you are anything but really messed up.