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Originally Posted by jadedmoonbeam
I am soooo sorry you had to go through this 
#1 - Good for you for going on the date!
#2 - No, I don't think you are overreacting.
#3 - You handled it very well and he sounds like a big jerk.
#4 - This is the guy who is going to be a THERAPIST???? I almost don't believe that now.
It's easy to make a connection with people over the phone or over email, but in person it's a whole other deal....this guy sounds very pushy to me...first dates are "getting to know you"...he was lucky you were kissing him on the cheek - how dare he say on the lips please?
Some men are such .....insert your own preferred bad word here!
For the next time, please make sure you meet in a very public place, like for coffee or a drink. Coffee or a drink only take 30 minutes and then you're out. If you like the person you can make other plans.
To get rid of the smell, try getting some Carmex, mentholated lip balm, it comes in a little blue pot. It has a very strong smell and is very good for getting your mind off of other smells. Or vicks Vapo Rub - a drop of it under your nose.
Do you have a T you can call to talk about this this week? |
Thank-you jadedmoonbeam - I shall try the vicks thing that sounds like a good idea - although the smell isn't on my clothes, only in my head. I think a strong different smell may give my head something else to think about.
Thank-you too for your reassurance that I wasn't over-reacting - its' hard when I find everything in life scarey sometimes to try to work out what is scarey and what is just my mind inventing stuff.
Yes it is worrying that he works as a therapist and doing hyponosis and trance work!
I do have a T who I see every Tuesday - I trust him completely and do feel very safe with him, although I am not very good at talking openly.
I am good at putting my rational head and mask on and getting on with life - but inside I feel really terrible today - it has been a shock to me as I thought I was improving - I have decided to come off the dating sites, I think I would find it too frightening to meet someone else.