Your mother may have some fear issues and they have blinded her from the truth. Not only can she not see them, she`s not going to accept the truth. From the sounds of him, he`s a controller and builds up admiration on the outside because there is none on the inside. I think people like him can tell the ones who will look up to them and ones that won`t. He attempts to drive the ones that don`t crazy so the truth won`t come out and he can keep standing above everyone. Not only are you scared, but he is to. Maybe he`s so scared of being destroyed he has to destroy you first. I`ve seen so many people like that, I only wish I had saved proof.