I thought I would add that my t did say he was not talking about looking like in the magazines (conforming). But as I've thought about it, it seems to me like having confidence in your physical appearance inherently requires conforming. I mean, if having confidence means having an expectation that people you meet will generally see you as attractive, you'd have to more or less conform to general expectations. Does that make sense?

So I am thinking that having confidence in my physical appearance is not really an important priority for me. Not that I mind finding some new makeup that looks good on me, or having a good hair day, or whatever, but it's not something I want to focus my energy on. I have way too much else going on that's more important.

But being more physically fit is an exception, since that's also a health issue. I am relatively fit, but I'd like to be healthier.