I understand.

I can sense though.. a need to be validated (which is why I'm not quick to run away here) when he does this. The last time he did this all through in the store he kept asking if this was something worth buying and if I liked it. I kept saying no because in my honest opinion the object was not even worth a second glance, never mind the price which was extremely expensive for what it was. When we left the store, he asked me again if it was worth it, would I have bought it at a lesser price and other questions like that and I kept saying no. Then after that I found out that oh, he got it free, and I didn't hide how unimpressed I was. After refusing, I got the "if you take it i'll never steal again" thing and still said no.

I can sense an insecurity and that need for me to tell him that I'm okay with it. Or maybe it's all in my head. But I honestly don't care if he wants to go steal things by himself on his own time and build up a criminal record. As long as I'm not going it with him and I don't have to be MORE involved than I already am. I don't feel like changing or saving another person when I cannot do these things for myself.. Basically my mind set is: go play with fire if you want to but don't stick my hand in expecting me to play with you.

Which is why, I will talk to my therapist about this.. and I will move hang out spots to places where items cannot be stolen as potential unwanted gifts. Though.. these "right/good" people.. I don't think they exist at my age to be honest. I know I'm doing a lot of settling but.. loneliness will surely make my life explode.