Hi I'm new here and a self diagnosed BPD. Glad I found this thread as I grew up wondering why the hell I was so different from everyone in terms of handling stress and emotions.

I came across a post over at another forum while searching for more info and support for BPD and I was extremely disheartened to read the thread but thought i'll bring it out for discussion over here.

http://www.bpdcentral.com/nookboard/...?topic=40306.0

In short, the posters (who are mostly family members living with a person diagnosed with BPD) said that people with BPD are rarely (if not impossible) to be genuinely nice.

God... this breaks my heart! I've always thought of myself as a nice person... as in genuinely nice and want the best for others. Ok, so I may appear self centered at times due to my lack of energy levels, paranoia, proscrastination and insecurities/fears but overall I'm a good person at heart. I do whatever I can for my loved ones when I'm having an ok day.

It saddens me to think that I'm not capable of being nice when I have a BPD. Anyone have any thoughts on this?

Hugs