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Originally Posted by Suratji
Yeah, I've read that just by expressing emotion we're not getting to the bottom of it. We could even begin to believe that that release will solve our problems. But if we keep having to 'release' over and over and over again, what have we gained?
It would be like the angry person who believes that if he keeps expressing his anger, he is confronting it. Hmmmm, does that make sense that that continual showing of anger will solve the problem of anger?
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That is true. Never really thought about it like that. Maybe that is why angry men (people) live their whole lives being angry? They express their anger in many ways, yet they never get over it? You are right. Because it does not solve the problem.
I cry alone quite a bit. It gives me a tremendous headache, and does give me temporary relief. But I end up crying about the same things over and over and over and over. Why? Because I have never really worked on WHY I was crying (hurting).
I guess the only thing I gained by crying is that horrible headache, a snotty nose, and swollen eyes!
I am seeing that blasted empty chair exercise coming my way. While it sounds ridiculous, for some reason, I think that would be healing for me. I don't mind doing it. I would just feel like an idiot doing it with someone watching.
Then again, I am sure she would be elated to see me have a breakthrough. She has been working with me for a year. Therapists probably do get a sense of contentment when they see their clients make such progress. If I were a therapist, I would want to witness such a powerful breakthrough from one of my clients.