I think seeing a T is good for both of you. It helps since maybe there are things that she may not be able to share or explain to you. No one really knows how the other feels. It is hard to accept that she feels this way but give her credit for seeking help. It will just make things better between the two of you. Therepy may help you as well to let all these feelings out and have a different view of how to cope with them. It will make you and her have a better relationship and understanding of each other. I would love my husband to be able to express himself in wanting to try and solve my problems So she is lucky to have you. These thoughts are showing that you love her so much and that you care for her deeply. If you did not then you would have now thoughts or feelings. Wish you well.