So you punished her (and protected you) by holding back?

It is unnerving to hear that, but I understand they tell us as far in advance as they can. Also they tell us at the beginning of the session so we can talk about it in that session. It makes many of us angry and sad and hurt and anxious when T goes away.

You can hold on to what you were going to tell her and tell her when she gets back. There is no time limit (or speed limit! )

for your hurt feelings and angry feelings