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Originally Posted by Perna
I saw my therapist for a really long time (9 years 1978-87, then not for 9 years 87-96, then 9 years again 1996-2005) and in that period gained 145 pounds (another person? :-) I think, as my therapy was successful, that I gained weight in order to "come out" in the world and do therapy well. The better I got, the more I gained weight. Since 2006 I've been actively working at losing and improving my health but it hasn't been easy or just dropped off. Of course there are other reasons I gained weight and my age (60) has some to do with not losing it quickly, etc. but I think therapy definitely had to do with the whole thing, was interrelated as swimmergirl says.
One thing about therapy though; even when it is "successful" one doesn't ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after, problem free. Life goes on and just because one is better able to deal with things when they come up, there are problems and challenges and habitual ways of dealing with them! I still get bored and discouraged and am dishonest (not "noticing" when I decide to eat something that isn't in my best interests, "forgetting" about pieces of candy or other small items that still count but which I wish didn't; immature, self-defeating, wishful thinking :-)
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I was afraid of that
. I mean the part about the bad habits not going away easily.
Actually, there was one time that therapy helped me get over some feeling of not-being-good-enough from childhood, where I felt really up for a month or two and I did stop overeating for a while. I don't think my t even knew any of that happened. That's happened other times when things in life were going really well too. When I have that feeling, I wonder why in the world I ever want to overeat, make my stomach hurt, etc. I sure wish that feeling would last. I don't know as there's any easy way to make it stay though. That link you posted, Perna, helped me stop wanting to go to the kitchen at least for the moment
. (Yeah, I really wanted to when I got on this thread, even though I'm actually full from having eaten too much for days.)
I'm still not quite sure whether talking to t about this and having someone to be accountable to is likely to make things better or worse. So far it has made things worse when I even thought he might be going near that topic.
. Now that I'm thinking about having to talk to him about it, maybe I could handle it a little better... idk... he sure has a way of getting under my skin.
Does therapy almost always have to be upsetting and difficult?