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I've not been in the position of not owning my house for a long time but I know the security that is felt because of having this safe place.

I can understand the feeling "if I don't maintain I will lose everything". Not in the respect of housing but in other aspects.

I have been giving it some thought and it seems you are doing the communicating and those basics. I wonder...if sticking to the basics ( as much as possible ) could help. In that I mean the "mundane" tasks of day to day living. Laundry, dishes, mopping ect. Trying to focus as much as possible when possible on these all too familiar chores.

Perhaps in this you can reduce stress and limit triggers as much as possible.

I also find that "talking to my self", not in public I may add, helps to keep all "listening" and focused on specific goals and tasks as well as a continued reminder for us to stay on task and complete goals.

Good luck in your housing search.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> thanks for the housing wishes.

we have been having a challenging time with the open houses and the inability to keep our room as we'd like with art and journals scattered about at the ready for anyone to use.

our therapist reminds us that when we make time for everyone we seem to not lose as much time.......yeah.......buuuuuuuuuuuut...........(always a but) lately after therapy we're not aware of what took place in the office and have several foggy hours afterwards or even a day or two.

worried that we cannot afford any days down right now with the clock ticking on housing. a few weeks back we were in bed for days after a session. we woke up late the morning after a session and then the next memory/awareness we had was the end of that day and no idea where the time went or what we did with it. that kind of thing is unsettling but par for course with learning co-consciousness.

unfortunately we're not a trick pony and don't perform on command so lately this idea of being able to compromise within about time seems far fetched. we know that things will change just as they've been changing over the past few years with addition of dx.

we're miserable if we ignore all the work and try to pretend we're okay......that one is too much denial to work! if we try to set time aside and use timers to enforce it we find ourselves hours later wondering why the timers weren't effective.

ramble ramble. been taking calls between trying to answer kd's post and yours. frustrating people with very set ideas of who they want to rent to........college students on mommy and daddy's bankroll.......nevermind they're idiot ppl and terrible tenants.......the guaranteed money is too appealing to some slumlords. oh well. they'll get the tenants they deserve.