Ok this is a difficult thing to talk about. I have been living with my fiancee for about a year and a half now. Thing were more than great in the beginning in fact it was almost too good to be true.
Then the mood swings started, the smallest of problem would make her whole day go to the dogs. That was ok we talked still. Then gradually the talking became less and less.
On Monday she came back from a visit out of town with one of her friends and she told me things don't feel good anymore. I asked her is there any hope of fixing this thing? She said she just feels nothing. And that I just make her feel guilty.
She slept elsewhere till today, yesterday i convinced her, for me and her to go and talk with her mother (she has always said she won't be one of those couples that goes to couples therapy).
She comes out of a broken home and did not know her biological father, while we discussed her breakup with me her mother told her that her biological father had bipolar disorder.
It was as if a light when on when her mother started to talk about the symptoms. My fiancee was ready to move out yesterday morning but after we talked to her mother, she has agreed to go see a shrink today, we will live in the same house but in different rooms. (This is very difficult for me)
I would like to ask, how do I support her?
How do I remain sane?
What is the best to do, should we live in the same house?
She is cold as ice towards me at the moment, she does not even really look me in the eyes, but at least she is going to try to get help...
Will she always connect me with this feelings of guilt, and shame?
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