<font color="purple"> I dont mind elaborating some..... There were two different ways he would take sex from me:
1. I would sometimes wake up and he would be on top of me doing his business.
2. He would throw me to the bed, hold me, and say "take it like a woman should"

It took a while before I comprehended that this was wrong, and for me to start saying no or struggle as I was in the mind frame that my body was for others pleasure anyway, and then it took him a while to respond to my no's and struggles when I finally flicked the switched on. He felt that it was a game in some way, until one day I finaly broke.... I filled out divorce papers and was unfaithful. At the time I also had spent 9 of 11 yrs on the couch. When he found out about my infifelity and that I filed divorce, we were then faced with all our ugliness and decided to try to work this out, our main issue was we were not communicating with each other. And now 6 yrs later, we are doing wonderfully. I love him dearly and I know he loves me, and I couldnt ask for a better relationship. It was hard work but we did it, hardcore honest communictaion.... </font>