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In my lifetime I have been very non confrontational..meaning..never standed up to someone who is using me, while being yelled at I simply say'"I'm so so sorry I love you," instead of yelling back...and it's bizarre...I've found all of the times I was yelled at and I smily sweetly said I am so sorry I love you that doesnt stop the person from yelling at me, I've found the sweeter I am the more they yell at me. It's bizarre..you would think a sweet smile and comment wouls stop them but it didnt. Then they accuse of of thinking only of myself when I didnt say anything about myself just say how much I love them. People have walked all over me and i'm just pointing out a bizarre human falacy that if you are as non confrontational as I am you LOSE in this life.........

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Thanks for inviting me to let it all out. I sense that not even my individual therapist is listening to my concerns. She believes in just throwing me in there (the group), and that I should sink or swim. She's very handy with words and ends up convincing me that she's right. There are times when she doesn't listen to what I say and dismisses my concerns. A few times, she will clarify her point way after the fact. By that time, the damage is done. I have acted in way that is unproductive and a waste of my time. It happens that my individual therapist and the moderators all work in the counseling center of the University I attend to. Just this semester, numerous support groups have sprang up. Almost every therapist has formed a support group. I question this move. My therapist has advertised two support groups and has just gotten enough people for her "people who love too much." That means that she can't see me twice a week as she had been doing so far. Will she overextend her efforts by moderating two groups and helping people individually?
You're right, Junerain. I am scared of making people angry. I fear they wil attack me. I understand what you mean. I've been there myself. Gotta stop being a chamaleon.