I need some help understanding an issue, and I hope there are folks here who can help. My wife is bipolar and develops obsessive crushes on other men. Most run their course and end in a month or so with nothing happening, but one turned into a full blown affair. (He was a psychologist and knew just how to manipulate her.) To this day, she still develops these crushes, the last of which resulted in a $520 cell bill due to daily calls and texts. Fortunatey, he lives two states away and nothing happened.

I do not want a divorce, but my only other choice is to live day to day wondering, "who next?". I plan to call an attorney next week, because I can no longer take it.

Is this part of BPD? Has anyone else had to deal with such an issue?