The "R" word was hard for me, too. When I could finally tolerate hearing my T talk about the relationship, I still couldn't call it "our relationship." That felt too close, so for a long time I always referred to it as "my relationship with you." Eventually I could refer to it as "our relationship" but he could always tell when I wasn't very happy with him because I would revert back to saying, "my relationship with you." Now, though, it's always "our relationship" and I really like it that way!