Wow that's sad
I'm fully grown and am a parent now, but my mom still isn't very there for me when it comes to BPD. I'm single mom with three kids and am not able to participate in the work force. I was hospitalized for a few weeks and I didn't get as much a a phone call or anything. Recovering while having kids to take care of on my own and such was pretty difficult.
I think with parents, sometimes they want to think their children are healthy and are in a bit of denial, or sometimes maybe feel a lot of guilt. And other parents maybe just need to really umm grow up haha.
Never read the book, but I think I'll try to find a copy.