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IMO there is a big difference between being non confrontational and allowing others to attack you.. maybe I'm reading this wrong (it's happened )

No, you don't need to yell... this was a tough one for me to evaluate for my own self... having a hearing problem too, I have trouble regulating my voice level..and was raising it for that, plus I raised my voice to make a point...others took that offensively.

When something is said to you/about you... try taking a deep breath before replying...think first... pause... if they jump back in and don't let you speak, that makes them look like they are attacking you, and the rest in the group or T should notice...

speak slower than you want to...

also, group therapy is the place to use those "I" statements, because they don't really have an argument if you speak everything as to how it makes you feel, how you are thinking (rather than probably the way they are talking, YOU need to do this and why don't YOU just...)

There's a fine line between a group that appears to be wannabe therapists, and those offering support in an effort to help themselves, imo.
If you have choices, of groups, then do check around.. one group does not fit all (as myself suggests.)

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So, leaving the group I attend to isn't a sign of an avoidant tendency?