Have you told her what you're feeling and going through? There is no reason for you to suffer in silence. Perhaps you could try writing it all out and then give it to her to read. Maybe she doesn't realize what she's doing to you. But ignorance isn't an excuse. I think if you talk to her, make her know what you are going through, and then watch to see if she starts trying to make changes about her behavior. I don't think you should stay in a relationship with this woman unless she wants and starts trying to make changes. I do believe a calm, rational conversation about what you are feeling will help start the process of change for the better.

Have you talked with your therapist about this? What did he/she say? When are you starting couples therapy?

Remember to not lose sight of yourself in all of this. Remember to keep working on your self esteem and self confidence. You both have to work on yourselves and make changes if you want this relationship to last. You are a good person worthy of love and happiness.

Take care of yourself