I was not sure where to post this, but here it goes:

My best friend is, suffice it to say, in a horrible relationship. She has been with this guy for 5 months, and they are already engaged. Hes horribly abusive to her in the emotional sense. She does everything for him, including taking care of his son, doing all the house work, shopping, and shes working a full time job. She suffers from depression and is new in the state where she met him, which is in KY. Hes horrible to her, tells her she has issues, laughs at her when shes crying, and he doesnt even sleep in the same bed with her at night. If she leaves the house upset and crying, he doesnt bother calling after her.

It gets much worse then that, but thats a small summary of whats going on.

The problem is, some days, she will call me up, crying, bawling her eyes out, and, the next thing day he'll do something nice for her, or say hes going to change, and she is on top of the world again. The cycle repeats, over and over again. I am her only consistent friend, and I understand that she needs to vent to someone, but its incredibly frustrating to me, because I give her advice, and she never takes it. She does not end up doing anything to better her situation. Its hard for me to believe her when she says that she is going to go get some help for her depression, or leave him. Basically its incredibly frustrating for me.

I just dont know how to handle the situation anymore. My phone rings at all hours, and I dont know what to say anymore. I dont want to abandon my friend during her time of need, but its starting to get me really upset. I am worried about her. I just want to shake her and tell her to wake up! Half the time I dont want to pick up my phone.

I am getting really worried because a few times shes made comments pertaining to suicide. I want to call her mother and tell her whats going on, but I am afraid that she is going to get mad at me. I dont want her to close off from me.

Its starting to get me really down, and really scared. I told her to get help, but she has no health insurance. I have given her some information to help her, and pointed her towards clinics, she says she'll go, but she doesnt.

How do I handle this long distance dilemma?

emo