Hi, this is going to be a little long, but I think it's necessary. It'll help to understand the situation a little bit better.
I am married, and have been for 5 years. My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have also split up about 10 times. Every time that we split up, it was over something stupid. We argue and fight constantly. We've even been in counseling because the stress and fighting got to me so badly that I tried to commit suicide. I honestly couldn't handle it anymore. At the time, I felt like it was my only way out. My counselor told us that we would probably be better off it we weren't together. He said that there are just some people in this world that don't need to be married. My husband didn't want to listen to him. I should have.
A few of the times we fought, I was going to leave and just call everything off, but he threatened suicide... I couldn't leave him. This pretty much happens at least once a month or so.
A couple of months ago, he decided that he wasn't happy and that he didn't want to be married anymore. I'm in college right now and am almost finished, but he doesn't want me to quit school. We finally decided that we shouldn't be together and that I would leave once I graduated. We lived here in the same house. He went out and did whatever he wanted to do. He would leave and stay gone for a day or so at a time. I just sat here like I always do, but this time I tried to act like it didn't hurt and like it didn't bother me at all. About a month after my husband and I made this decision, I met this really great guy online. I told him about my current situation and he understood. He was always there to listen to me when I had a problem and I have been there for him. We talk all of the time now. I really care a lot about him.
Now for the problem.
About a week ago, my husband told me that he was wrong. He told me he loved me and he didn't want me to leave in December. He wants to work things out. My online friend and I have gotten very close. In fact, I think I've even fallen in love with him. I honestly don't know what to do now. I love my husband and desperately want things to work out with us, but I can't handle all of the arguing and the threats anymore. I really do think I'm in love my the new guy I've met, but am scared of that too.
I don't know what to do. I'm open to any suggestions that anyone might have.