Kaliope, you hit the nail on the head with accountablity. Thank you. I have been letting things slide and telling myself it is the BPD.

I found out yesterday that she is planning a trip to her home town. Instead of staying with her parents (as usual) she is getting a hotel room. I found text messages to an old boyfreind telling him we have seperated (we haven't) and plans for the weekend for the two of them. A few years ago, I found out she had seen him and ended up making out with him.

Here's the part I do not get. She thinks this is acceptable and that there is nothing wrong with this scenario! She just wants to feel like a 20 year old again.

She has been running around the house cleaning everything in site for the last two weeks, and I am thinking this escape into fantasy is a manic episode?