It depends on how distressed I am. Most of the time it would be simple crying, and he helps me explore whatever is going on at the moment. On occasion I have become relatively unglued which is another animal altogether. In those occasions, he sits with me while I pull myself back together, not pushing talking as that isn't going to help me calm down at those times. If I'm dissociating, he works to help me ground myself and stay present. I guess in all cases he's very patient and calming.