Cole - I hate to say this... but I feel like I must!!

She sounds like my mother!!

This is what I mean: My mom will take her meds and go to therapy when she feels like it. She also does whatever she wants not caring who she hurts and when confronted her reply is, "Well, you know I have an illness and things are hard for me to control."

When I was diagnosed back in 2006, I cried sooooooooooooooo much just because I thought, "oh no! I'm going to be just like mom!" ... turns out, that I CAN control things to a certain extent.

I am HONEST with my tdoc and pdoc and they know what is my BPD and what is just ME. I take my meds as I am supposed to EVEN when I am feeling "ok" and think I might not need them anymore.

Just because someone has an illness, it does not excuse them to act like "witch" (cursing gets blocked off here) This I learned with having a mom that loves to use her illness as an excuse to manipulate people.

I know that when you have children it is very tough to do what you might need in order to be sane ... BUT, think of it this way: your kids are not dumb, they see the fights, the hurt, their mom acting a bit out of it, and it will affect them much more to continue seeing this than to end the relationship and letting them experience what life is really like.

Whatever your decision is will be just that YOUR DECISION!! Just because someone is BP does not give them a green light to hurt you, cheat on you and then expect you to take it.

I wish you the best of luck ...