Here's what I'm doing...I do not have a girlfriend, I am not dating, and I'm looking at women as friends so that I can devote time to my recovery so that in the future I will have a better handle on things and really be ready to be in a relationship again.

With bipolar your really need to work it...with professionals, knowing your symptoms, knowing your triggers, knowing what is healthy for you to be doing, knowing what is not. It is a lot of trail and error...it takes a lot of work. Work I believe for me is best done without the added relationship issues. Having said that if I were still married I wouldn't end it just so I can work on me.

With him not getting any kind of treatment...how is he going to work all this out...its tough enough with a good support group...alone I can't imagine how hard it would be.

I'm not going to say leave...but I would have to take a really long look at the reality of this and decide on your boundaries...for example ending a relationship by text and not having any further discussion...would this be acceptable behavior in the future? Would he agree not to do it again? Would he be able to approach you about concerns about being in a relationship? How will he make those kinds of changes in thinking when he is spooked or stressed?