What is a relationship?

A relationship is give and take for one thing. It is also trying to communicate as best we can in the most effective way we can. If I were you I would just come right out and ask her "What's wrong that you keep cancelling and rescheduling? I have done that with dentist appointments and things I was fearful of or aprehensive about. She may have some kind of problem with relationships that you are not aware of. I would just try to ask her that and also convey that you want to try and understand what's up, too. Just saying to her that you are a bit scared too and what makes you feel than way (not having had a relationship before) can help and that is not too hard to say. It doesn't imply intense feelings but some and that may end up having the two of you feeling more on an even keel. Maybe if she knows you are a little shy about it she may relax more-I'm guessing. I'm not the greatest in relationships, yet (!), but I am trying to improve and I realize that upfront communication can help to see things more clearly. You don't have to divulge your deepest fears or insecurities.

I, too, was told not to be angry, not to cry, or to stop crying. So, I hid my feelings and problems for years until I kind of fell into them again. I was at a support group and I was new some years back. People started talking about "fears." I almost felt like I was at an x-rated movie (in a sense) and it was so nice to hear people talking about it-feelings. I kept looking around in wonder and amazement. I couldn't say much then about the things I was still submerging deeply including feelings with a brick wall around them (to protect me from more harm I guess) but gradually things came out. Especially when I felt safe to let them out. Going to therapy to learn asserting my feelings helped immensely. For me now though it's a continual struggle of going into myself and coming out because I'm not in a safe spot now. (We constantly change I believe. We are never in the same exact spot psychologically) I hope to be though when I get back to therapy again. Sorry about the rambling but I wanted to tell about my feelings story and hoped to help some.

I hear your frustration with it allright but you can clear it up by just asking some questions. If you cannot say feelings words then questions might be easier. Like "What's wrong?"

"Things work out best for the people
Who make the best out of the way things work out."
--- Author Unknown ---