I am glad you joined us. This is a great place to come to get advice and support but in the end the decision is yours. Now for my advice. Like Darkeyes said online relationships are part fantasy. It is very easy to get on the computer and be somebody for an hour then return to your normal self as soon as you click off. I pretended I was a transvestite for 3 weeks one time in a really raucous chat room. It was a lot of fun. No one there was who they said they were and all of them were quite convincing in their roles. Even if you are playing yourself on-line it is often a picture perfect representation of yourself that has been touched up and enhanced. So I feel your on-line relationship should have no part in your decisions regarding your marriage. I know that is hard to do--BP I am still debating whether or not to tell you the story --but your husband is real life. You know him and all his faults and all his good qualities. He deserves to have you make your decision based your real life relationship and not have to compete with someone who doesn't have the pressure of being there when he has something else he wants to do. Once you made your decision about your hubby then you can decide what to do about your friend. Believe me I know how hard that can be.
Take care,
Zen

<font color=blue>I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but, it comes from within. It is there alll the time.--Anna Freud