[quote=Squiggle328;1889983]I broke a pattern!! As some of you know, my marriage is not what I would call a marriage at all. I am the caregiver and he is the patient. Trying to restore this into what a marriage should be has been a challenge. My therapist has been trying to help learn to forgive myself and my spouse for the things we have done to hurt each other over the years. Not intentionally, but we have hurt each other.

Well, we made up! Yes, that sounds sappy, but we reconnected this week. It is a miracle!! I mean that. For some reason the boundaries are coming down. I am allowing him back into my life as a husband, not as a patient. I can see him as a man, not just as a quadriplegic.[quote]

This is kinda off topic but..........I wrote to the Dr. Phil show to see if they might be interested in doing a show about the struggles of those who are taking care of disabled spouses and how that takes a toll on their marriages. I shared this with my husband this morning. He was like, "You really did that?"

He laughed and said, "I sent in a letter last week to ask if they would be interested in talking about the struggles caregivers go through!"

Well, that was odd! Neither of us have ever talked about emailing Dr. Phil, yet we both end up doing that within the same week??

Some of you may remember that a few months ago, the local news wanted to do a story on us. I chickened out because I was worried that it may affect my job in a negative way.

Who knows? You guys may see me on the Dr. Phil show one day! Then my true identity would be revealed!

**I wonder why the quote box is not showing up? I noticed this on some other posts. What is up with that?**