rainbow, thanks - yes that should read "adequately met".

I also thought it was interesting how the 2 types of transference work together. And I thought about 'ruptures' when reading about the shift from one type to the other.

suratji, do you ever wonder if reading too much interferes with your therapy
I have wondered that about mine - that the reading can be another attempt to avoid introspection and to avoid the intimacy of the therapy relationship. At one point I had to stop reading and just show up and try to engage more in my therapy.