I have had victim mentality all through my twenties. It took meeting the right people at the right support groups and the right churches to grow into the me I am today, strong and assertive and not allowing others to abuse me or overlook me. The right friends. I sure as heck did not grow by my family, they only hindered my growth. Sometimes friends are your family. Sometimes when you have had as many failures, attacks on your character, and cruelty as I have seen with my now worn out eyes- yes, the victim mentality starts to be the only thing you can count on in this cruel world. Crawling out of it takes a village, much like raising a child takes a village. There are some beautiful people out there, it just takes a pickaxe to find them sometimes. that includes the people of PC, many conversations and or threads here helped me grow. Loving life now, as someone who goes after what they want from life, instead of life being 'done' TO ME.......I only can guess what lies in my future at this point, my life has steadily improved ever so slowly...and it ain't stopped improving yet