Very good article - it takes a tremendous amount of self-awareness to realize you have fallen into that trap, also takes a lot of helping hands to pull you out once you've found yourself ensnared! Personally, I'm still trying to make the switch. While recognizing it intellectually is the first step - making your heart believe what your head knows is the hardest step. The change doesn't happen overnight, even with cognitive awareness of victim-type behaviors, it's a long process to transform into that butterfly!