Have you sat down and talked to her? She is probably wondering what happened. I am really close to my girls 14 and 19. We talk about everything and anything. If something were to suddenly change to where we were in separate places like you mentioned, I would be wondering what happened. If you miss the closeness, then it's worth rekindling. If not, then just let her know you love her.
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Originally Posted by spaceid
I'm 28 yo and used to have a close relationship with my mom. When I mean close I mean I always enjoyed being around her and she was one of the only people I felt like I could talk to. However, we never talked about much personal stuff, like relationships, but I could tell her about my day and things like that.
Over about the last year I just don't feel like I can do this anymore. I used to sit with her on the couch and lean on her and it felt secure. Now I'd rather be alone. Even when it is just me and her in the house. I'm upstairs and she's downstairs. I don't know if she has noticed anything different, but I just don't feel like I can talk to her anymore. We used to go out to eat and talk almost every weekend or hang out at the mall together, but I just don't want to do those things with her anymore.
I feel bad. But it seems like I get annoyed with her really quickly. My patience is gone. I always feel like yelling at her. I don't do it, but I just get frustrated around her. I don't know what is happening.
Does anyone think it is possible for a daughter to grow apart from her mother this much? We used to be so close that my sister-in-law envied our relationship. She wanted the same with her daughter. But I feel she does have that more than my mother and I do.
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