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iamspecial · Jun 12, 2011, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

I would think it would be a good idea to not just let that situation slide by without discussing how you felt about it & get to know what your rights actually are in the UK....which might be different than our HIPPA laws here in the US.

I think the main issue I would have had was that she did it without talking over what she was planning on doing with me. I want to know what a person who is treating me is planning & to be an active part in my treatment which means knowing if someone else is going to be brought in to talk to me rather than just springing it on me without any communication at all about it.

Your T needs to know that the WAY she did it wasn't acceptable to you even if it might be within the law....she needs to know how much it bothered you just bringing in someone who knew everything about you without your being the one to tell them.

I know I would have been upset at the way she handled the situation even though it's nice that she was caring enough to bring in someone else who might be able to help more....it's the way she did it that was wrong.

It's good to get things out in the air that have bothered you rather then letting them slide & get burried....it's the things that we bury in life that stick around to haunt us later on.....I have found that out over the 58 years of life.

I think it is different here....if she feels im at risk then she has no choice she has to ask for backup and i think thats wwhat she was doing but she could have told me and not just did what she did do.

I was shocked when she brought her with her...she could see i was bothered with it...i couldnt have made it more clear for her. what she did wasnt right but i cant change that.

I'm just not very good with my words and when i talk to my T it never comes out the way i want it to...i get all shy and scared of her (i know that sounds bad....i just dont trust her or even think confronting her will do me any good) i have tried to tell her that i wasnt happy about it and she knows about PC and i did tell her if she wants to know how it made me felt the best way was to come on here and read it for herself so that she knew how i felt but not able to express it to her...she is getting rid of me now anyway b/c she cant help me so how will anyone be able to help me if she has given up on me? she wants me to see someone else to do CAT (Cognitive Analytical Therapy).....its abit like CBT but diffenrent i guess...i really dont know anything about it but i have been looking it up and im not sure that will work either but i have to try it.

thank you for your comment...and the support...i couldnt keep it in...its what i have always done and now im having to face them instead of facing them when i should have. i will try and tell her again and if i still cant seem to then im just gonna print this off and let her read it...its the only way i think...im not a confident person and im scared of my own shaddow....so the world is a scary place for me but i will live and get by..Thank you again.