It took years for me to be able to cry in front of T.
She once asked me, what would yr best friend do if you started crying? What would you want me to do ?
My friend would probably say something like "Oh, SAWE," with feeling in her voice that showed me she cared for my sadness; she might just lay her hand on my arm, or come to sit by me.
I told T all of this and she has never done any of it (so why ask, I wonder).

If tears fall she does offer a box of Kleenex, although there is one right beside my chair, but as to the look on her face, I have no idea because at those moments I am not thinking of her... If I did think of her watching me, instead of being focused on the subject matter, I would fight back the tears no matter what. does that make any sense?

An earlier poster said >> I am glad my T doesn't touch me when I cry, because I feel if he did, I would just lose it, and really start crying much harder.
I agree, but have told T that I would prefer that she do or say something that WOULD make me cry more. That shocked her I think, and she wanted to know why; the why is, I fight crying so much; and if I would just lose it, maybe I could get through some of these issues much sooner instead of coming back to them over and over and over again. But again, she has never done any such thing.