I totally understand what you mean, Caroline (or at least I think I do.) Yes, the vagueness at times, especially when it is obviously an onsite type comment, does put many members into a tailspin, imo.

Yes, I also think it should be taken up in PM... but even with that, all posts, threads, chats, PMs are to be supportive. Countering what someone else says needs careful consideration, imo... and is difficult, to say the least. I know I feel that if noone replies to someone's thread starter, then it's out there like: this is truth, everyone agrees...so some posts need a response for that fact alone?

IMO a thread that begins asking for opinions is different than one that shares how one is feeling, needing support, don't you?

The good thing about a community like PC, is once a member gains a little confidence, and understanding of how some members always respond, they do better IRL..having developed a slightly better perspective.

I hope you will feel comfortable posting here in the future... as it takes posts to keep the site useful