Well, Lava, it was your brother that said your father wanted to make up. No, your father has to speak for himself, had no problem in the past and you know it is no different now. And given his condition and unstable behavior, I wouldn't trust it, did anyone ever remove those guns? No, in my opinion, just send a card maybe, something generic or even comical, doesn't have to profess love.

Your memories serve you to know that he is very unpredictable, old people usually only get worse not better, they have a much harder time controling anger and bad behaviors and ususally don't give a dam anymore.

You have to think of you now, you have your wife, an empty nester, time to have a life for you, the both of you, you did your time.

That is my opinion, you have to do what you feel is right for you. Don't let anyone drag you back, you did your time, you are moving forward, you deserve it.

Open Eyes