Rock on Lava - good job in setting boundaries and self-protecting. Father's Day IS tough! A special day for all of us on here to be reminded of what we are trying to forget (sarcasm!) It's almost like you need to grieve the loss of your father, even if he is still there. I know I went through that process....still feels incomplete. I think mourning the father you never had would be a better way to define it! Good Luck with T...my guess is she will be very proud of you - just like me!