I want you guys to know what she said. I don't even care about anonymity or private communications anymore, not right now. So here's the transcribed text of her voicemail. Please know that google voice doesn't always do a perfect job with transcribing, especially when someone says "um" or has a lot of verbal pauses, so I went in and fixed those but otherwise I didn't change anything or take anything out at all.
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Yeah, Hi. This is [T], I got your voicemail and I am, feeling like you're pushing me You're starting to call me more often and tell me things that upset you about things I did or didn't do. Yeah, when you called and said that you were upset that I didn't ask, Hey, you know what, Molly, This is phone coaching. And sometimes. I guess I'm gonna ask you know procedures went, and sometimes not. Sometimes I'm gonna ask you and it's not about whether or not I care, it's about how busy i am how much energy I have and what's going on with me. That's when I'm gonna ask, or not, and that's okay, so. It's not about you [chuckle] it is not about you. As far as doing something wrong. You didn't do anything wrong to make me ask for not ask. and Molly, Yes, you are starting to call me too much. As far as needing, reassurance that I will be there or reassurance that I still care. Or just reassurance In general, so. If you want phone coaching Molly, I'm more than happy to give you a phone, Coaching and Just know that I'm still here, please, i, I need you to stop calling from the reassurance. If you want emotional support, call your friends and get emotional support from them. alright, call me if you want coaching. Thank you. Bye.
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for clarity: a while after I talked to her I called and left her a message asking if I did something wrong, if I called her too much or said the wrong things. I said it hurt my feelings that she didn't ask how the procedure went. I said I am tired of being in this place of not knowing what I did wrong this time, and that I'm done. I told her it's a dealbreaker for me, and I am going to walk away now. Her message above was in response to that. When she called I was too afraid in that moment to talk to her, afraid she would say something that hurt me. I think that was a wise choice.
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