Zoo, you are correct in saying that black and white thinking seems like a borderline behavior. You are also correct in saying that you have no idea what she is thinking and feeling. You most likely will never have a clear understanding. What I saw from your previous posts on this thread is that you are okay with what you are feeling you need to do for yourself in this situation. And thats the important thing. I wont spend anymore time on this thread trying to figure out why your T does this. But what I will do, since this is about you, is validate your feelings and support your decisions about your therapy and keep sending you safe hugs. You are strong Zoo. Keep Going!!!