(((zoo))) She *is* acting kind of borderline -- like you said, reactive, emotionally labile. *And* at the same time she is a good T in many other ways.

Not that this excuses her at all, since she is the T and it is her job to behave professionally and in a way that responds appropriately to your needs, but.. think about it. She chose to devote her career to working with BPD. A lot of people who choose to devote themselves to a certain aspect of the psych field do so for very personal reasons. I am an example of that -- I am going to specialize in psychotherapy research for anxiety disorders (and, I have to see about this, but I may specialize in PTSD) and I have very personal reasons for doing that. I have experienced a lot of incompetent T's and I want to make the field better so people don't have to go through what I went through. So I choose to specialize in therapy research. For people with problems like mine.

It's possible your T is recovering from BPD herself, maybe she had it full-blown when she was younger and overcame most of it but still struggles with boundaries.

This isn't to excuse her though in ANY way because as a T it is her responsibility to maintain balance and not allow these issues to affect her work, and it is her responsibility to seek supervision when she is feeling a bit shaky. Which she is right now. This is just to say that you did not do anything wrong, this really does seem like confusing and erratic behavior, and that I think you are incredibly strong to be coping with this right now. Those two texts you sent were just honest, I didn't think they seemed like overreactions at all.