I don't think you sound at all bossy or narcissistic. Quite the opposite, actually. I agree with Suratji...I think you're taking too much blame on to yourself. Yes, some of it might be you, but your T bears his own responsibility for not remembering what is important to you. I think it's great that you're asking your T how you can help in making sure things stay on track, that shows that it's important to you.

Regarding the thread title being misspelled...I honestly didn't notice because 'n' and 'm' are kinda hard to differentiate when reading the boards on my cell phone!