I am new to the forum; but can really relate to your post. My father was an alcoholic his entire life. I didn't really u/stand it growing up; but, I did u/stand the beatings. As an adult when I tried to have a r/ship with him - it would end up being a 'chase' from one room to the other while he was enjoying his drinks.

Eventually, I realized I was wasting MY PRECIOUS TIME in life chasing a man who didn't want a r/ship with me; and never had. I was called to the ER the last night of his life. His last words to me were: "I have to piss." I stood holding this tube which was sucking the fluids from his mouth; while he turned his back to me and urinated. Shortly after that, he passed away. Not even in his moments of death did he have anything to say to me. Sad - Yes. Am I over it? Yes. It was his issue not mine.

There is nothing wrong with boundaries; and sticking to them. We have to fill our lives with positive & loving people.

Wishing you a weekend of happiness on your own terms; doing what YOU enjoy. These 'holidays' are just days marked by people who want to make money. My motto is if you really love me - and want a r/ship with me - then you'd be nice to me 365 days a year; not just one 'special' day.