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Originally Posted by I_Love_Pink80
hate the question “What brings you to therapy?”. It’s like “What is wrong with you and how can I fix you?” It makes me feel like I am weird and crazy. I feel like my husband just looks at me and thinks I am crazy. I can see it in his eyes. I can’t do this on Monday. Im canceling.
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I'm sorry that you're struggling so much with going. I think you would probably find it very helpful, and I do wish you'd call back and un-cancel.
I understand the feeling that others think you're crazy...but maybe you can look at it in a different way. Maybe what you're seeing in your husband's eyes is just concern...mind-reading is an easy trap to fall in to when you're worried about something. If you were suddenly unable to...say...walk across your house....you'd be concerned enough to go see a doctor, right? Well, your anger and other concerns are basically the mental equivalent of that...you have something going on that is preventing you from doing things you used to be able to do. The right thing to do is to seek a professional to help you figure out what's going on. It does not mean you are crazy or weird, it means you recognize that something needs to be worked on so that you can live your life more fully.
When a T asks you "what brings you to therapy" it really is just what it sounds like...they do need to know why you're there. If that question bothers you so, then say that. Say "I really don't like that question." Or, answer honestly..."my husband made me come, I'm angry all the time, etc." The T just needs someplace to start. Think of it like a medical doctor asking the reason for your office visit...they need you to point them in some direction to start with.
When I was really struggling with emotions a few weeks ago, my T replied back to an email with the following - "You are NOT losing your mind, you are integrating body, mind and spirit." That comment meant so much to me that it made me cry in relief. I'm sharing that with you. You are not crazy, you are simply struggling with integrating your body, mind, and spirit and it's so much harder without any help!