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Originally Posted by acbcdefg66666
But this relationship is going nowhere fast. He will never learn anything unless he feels a need to change. This will all go into one big circle - He will never feel a need to change if he doesn't feel bad or guilty about his choices. He will never feel this unless he becomes uncomfortable with his choices and stops lying to himself about being right all the time.
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Feeling bad or guilty is not really motiviation to change...growth is probably a more noble reason...but just remember you've dated someone got to know them and possibly made a decision to move on as you don't think you can accept his behavior for the years to come...this is great...just remember there is no need to demonize him...you have reason enough to leave...he doesn't have to be made into this evil thing because he doesn't see things your way...I do understand the need to vent and hopefully this is all it is...but after venting you need to accept the fact that everyone is there own person and as such will behave in certain ways...it is not for you to change that person...only to change how you react to it...