I have no idea if my T is very different in personal history. I don't know if she's married; I don't know if she has children; I know almost nothing about her.

What I do know is that I like her, I feel safe with her, I feel heard by her.

So, I'd say that if you think that difference in history will impact your relationship with her, maybe it will. But if you like her and feel heard by her, maybe you can ignore the differences in history. Don't we all have different histories? Does it mean we can only connect with people who have traveled the same road as us? Are your friends only people who have raised 7 children and got married at 18?