Wow, you do have so much to sort out here. How can you possibly control all of this situation? Now you are dealing with a woman who is extremely unstable. I even wonder if she really loves you or just needs you to resolve her issues. The fact that she could not reciprocate love for you shows that she is way too self absorbed in confusion to give to anyone.

I really feel sad for all the children involved, not very fair to them. They are not stupid and must feel very insecure, not very good for a young brain to grow in. I hate to say it but you do really need to consider the well being of these children. Taking off and paying child support, well, she was in an abusive situation, the children felt that you know, YOUR CHILDREN? It almost sounds like the poor children are in the way, is that fair?

You can't fix this by yourself, but you do need to spend time with a therapist, someone to help you find your way through this, and not be on your own. What you are talking about here is chaos and I am sorry, but what about these children scattered about? Your ex is clearly in no real condition psychologically to handle all this, her interactions with you are proof of that. But on the other hand, no, you cant desert the situation as the best case scenario would be to have both of you get psychological help, even together and concentrate on getting things resolved and perhaps taking on the responsibility of the young lives that are being effected by all of this.

At this point you do have to consider your own mental health, you obviously can't control hers, she needs help with that. You both need help. And I hope you have discussed what it is doing to the lives of your children that you had together, honesty, why should they suffer?

If anything you do need to take the bull by the horns and get therapy and even marriage counceling, family counseling etc. Please don't try to do this on your own, there is too much damage for that, your ex is clearly under a great deal of emotional confusion.

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