Here's a link to the cbt article here on pc:

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/in-...ioral-therapy/

I can only speak to cbt as I've never been through dbt. Cbt is about your thought processes and being able to recognize faulty thought processes and correct those. It can be used for behaviors such as OCD and phobias, but that is not what I went through it for. In my case it was working on old thought patterns and establishing new, healthier thought patterns.

There are no rewards or punishments involved in cbt (maybe that's dbt?). I would not say the therapist is in complete control at all. I really have always found it a pretty equal relationship.

I have had some homework to do, but nothing that was overwhelming (and you really only do what you can do, you know?). Generally it was taking an event that I found triggering in some way (doesn't have to be a major event, just an everyday event works just as well) and going through a process of steps examining my thinking and feeling about that event. The goal is that you learn to do this automatically over time.

It really isn't something to be scared about at all. I have found it very helpful. Now my t is not exclusively cbt, so we intersperse other things in my therapy, but in the guts of things, my t is very cbt in his philosophy toward therapy. Because he isn't exclusively cbt, mine hasn't been a short-term therapy. You might want to find someone who uses some cbt techniques, but isn't exclusively cbt if you are worried about it being too structured for you. There are so many combinations of therapy techniques out there.