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Old Jun 15, 2011, 02:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Suratji View Post
Have you asked your T for tips or techniques to try to answer this question? I believe that by continually going after a problem by analysis will have us spinning our wheels.

My T is having me do exercises that hope to bypass my analytical brain and you know what- it's working. I've gained some insights by opening up my self-exploration by other means than constantly 'thinking' about them.

Is that what your T wants you to do - just keep 'thinking' about it? Or does has she suggested some other ways to approach the problem?
She wants to do EFT and The Empty Chair with me, but I have refused to do it. I know that she wants me to try new things because I get stuck in certain areas and do not want to visit them. Forgiveness is one of them. She strongly believes that I will have positive outcomes if I would allow myself to try new things. I can't do it, though. I would feel stupid!!

This is good question for me to ask in my session tomorrow. "What are YOU doing to help me learn to forgive myself?"

We do talk about many, many other things. It always happens that somewhere in our sessions, I will start putting myself down and making negative comments about myself. She says this is where it is evident that I am beating myself up for things in my past. I blame myself for why I am how I am, and for why I am in the shape I am in today.

Well, I AM the reason! I was the one who made those decisions. I have to take ownership, don't I?