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Originally Posted by Squiggle328
Our relationship has come a very long way. I fought it every step and I still fight it. If she would say, "I like you, Squiggle", or "I care about you, Squiggle", that would make me feel better. She is just careful about using those kinds of phrases.
I may ask her about this tomorrow. If she told me, "I care about you" I think I would fall out in the floor. I would be speechless and may even cry. Why would I do that? I don't know, but to hear her say something like that would touch my inner core for some reason.
I did not grow up with parents who said, "I love you". They were very hands on with me and very supportive in everything I did, but they were not openly affectionate. My mom was not raised that way, so I am sure she did not know how to use her words to show us love. She did this by her actions.
It is said that actions speak louder than words. I agree with this, but for some reason when someone tells you, "I love you", that touches a part of you that no action can reach. Is this true?
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I know what you mean. My T said something to me last month that touched me deeply. I would not respond very well to her saying, "I love you" because I don't really understand what those words mean and I don't really trust them.
She did better than that in my opinion. I was having trouble with her leaving on vacation and we had discussed a lot my attachment. I had stopped resisting the attachment after I read the book, "Attachment in Psychotherapy" and began to understand its relevance and importance in the therapeutic relationship.
Anyways, my T said, "Attachment is not only one way, you know. It goes both ways. And I don't want you to suffer while I'm gone."
Wow, that was so cool to hear.