StitchIsAwesome135,

I completely agree with Direction's interpretation of what you mean by "jumpstart the mentality change". It feels like you are saying that you need to find the motivation to get the girl's physical attention, and how can you do it?

I really can't give advice on how you could get her physical attention & change the relationship to a romantic style. I just advise against putting on an act for someone else's attention. It would only hurt you and her emotionally. There are no winners in relationships like thise described.

The best advice I can offer to you is to be honest with yourself. Who you are, why you feel ___, who can you really trust with your emotions. Acknowledging the cause of the depression is a huge part of feeling better. From there, accepting that you do feel ___ can help. Especially when you can see that the mood does come more bearable at certain times. That knowledge gives you the tenacity at sticking with treatment, to get your feelings under control. Forgiveness or apology may be necessary for you to get any farther in your treatment, and finally gather self-acceptance.

Yes, it is a long road. Best wishes!